What You’ll Learn Today:
On today’s broadcast you’ll learn:
- Why finding a counselor is like finding the right partner
- The 16 things you should consider when choosing a couple’s counselor
- The most commonly asked questions and answers around finding a great couple’s counselor
Finding the right couple’s counselor is a lot like dating to find the right partner. You’ve got to have that great fit: personalities that mesh, as well as cultural and intellectual compatibility. Get a feel before making that first appointment.
Here’s a list of some of the things you need to know when looking for a great couple’s counselor:
- Do not pick someone based on time availability or price– pick someone on fit!
- Find someone with flexibility about counseling sessions and/or how often you meet.
- Make sure the couples’ therapist brings up how you work your finances as a couple.
- Your couple’s therapist should also be very comfortable talking about your sex life with you.
- Make sure the therapist is dedicated to each of you feeling happy and fulfilled.
- You shouldn’t feel like your couple’s therapist take sides.
- Someone who doesn’t trample your boundaries
- You want a therapist who gives you specific strategies and tips for changing your relationship.
- If you have a drug or alcohol problem (or think you do), you want to see someone who has experience with chemical dependency.
- Related to this, make sure they know about marriage research and that they’ve had some experience with couples.
- Your therapist should not let you and your partner engage in angry exchanges repeatedly during your sessions.
- The focus in couples’ counseling should be on how to deal with your current marital problems.
- Make sure you set concrete goals for therapy.
- Whoever you pick, make sure they carry hope, not cynicism.
- Don’t schedule the second appointment right away. Go home and discuss the session first.
- Don’t schedule sessions at the end of a long day. If it’s a priority, make it one and take some time off work or wherever to make it happen.