Are You a Narcissist and Don’t Know It? The Truth About Healthy Selfishness vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Podcast Episode 335)

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“I’m just putting myself first, is that narcissistic?” “Am I being selfish or setting a boundary?” “I think I might be a narcissist.” Sound familiar? If you’ve asked yourself any of these questions, take a deep breath. You’re probably not a narcissist. But the fact that you’re even wondering is worth unpacking, because somewhere between healthy self-love and full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), things get murky. So let’s clear it up. Today we’re digging into the difference between being self-focused (a good thing), being selfish (sometimes good, sometimes not), and having narcissistic traits or full-blown NPD (not great). Then, you’ll learn my five action steps for building healthy self-love without going overboard.

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Tier I: Inner Circle

• Healthy Selfishness Daily Checklist
• Journal Prompts: Healthy Self-Love

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• 20 Empathic Boundary Scripts
• Guided Visualization: Embodying Healthy Self-Love

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• Rewriting the Rules of Selfishness Worksheet
• What Kind of a Giver are You? Reflection Exercise

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Resources for Are You a Narcissist and Don’t Know It?

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Self-Love or Narcissism? Quiz

Learn to Hold Your Boundaries with Healthy Selfishness

Codependency, Counter-dependency and Narcissism, Oh My!

What Narcissists Do When Backed into a Corner: Lessons from Celebrities Who Lost Control

Identifying and Understanding the Narcissistic Personality by Elsa F. Ronningstam

Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy by Dr. Abby Medcalf

Kaufman, S. B., & Jauk, E. (2020). Healthy Selfishness and Pathological Altruism: Measuring Two Paradoxical Forms of Selfishness. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 521440. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.01006

Crocker, J., & Canevello, A. (2008). Creating and undermining social support in communal relationships: The role of compassionate and self-image goals. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95, 555-575.

Oakley, Barbara, and others (eds), Pathological Altruism (2011; online edn, Oxford Academic, 19 Jan. 2012), https://doi.org/10.1093/acprof:oso/9780199738571.001.0001,

Emmanuel Caliwan, J. D. selfishness and selflove by Erich Fromm.

Toward a Psychology of Being, 2nd Edition by Abraham H. Maslow

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