Being Curious Will Improve All Your Relationships: Here’s How to Do It (Podcast Episode 272)

I know you’ve heard that curiosity killed the cat, but that negative spin is all wrong! We know from the research that curiosity will help with everything from improving your relationships, to coping better with rejection to feeling happier and more fulfilled in your life. In the last thirty years, we’ve amassed a lot of great research illustrating the benefits of curiosity. In fact, describing a day you felt curious will boost your mental and physical state by 20% more than if you told me about a day you felt incredibly happy! Today we’re going to discuss the biggest benefits of curiosity and my top tips for easily being more curious in all your relationships.

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Research and Resources for Being Curious Will Improve All Your Relationships

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Curious?: Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life by Todd B. Kashdan

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