No More Date Nights

 When I go to restaurants I like to check out the people around me to see who’s on a good first date (I can tell because there’s much hair tossing, attentiveness, laughter, active conversation and quick touches to the arm); and then I like to look for...

Fall in Love with Your Partner Again

  Being in a long-term relationship means you see a shared life with someone. The problem is that you and your partner likely have a different definition of what “sharing” means. So, I’ll see a couple and the husband thinks he’s doing plenty, but his...

Boundaries: How to Identify Them and How to Hold Them

  Having healthy emotional boundaries means you know what your limits are. It means you know what you need to feel safe and confident in your world. It means you know your standards. It also means that you take full responsibility for your own...

What to Do if Your Partner is Controlling

  Let’s Talk Control There’s a big difference between being controlling and being in control. Being in control is awesome. It means you’re self-aware, confident and that your self-esteem is strong. Being controlling is unhealthy. It’s actually a sign...

How to Deal with Your Control Issues

  Hello. My name is Abby and I’m a control freak. Actually, I like to call myself a “control enthusiast” because that sounds better but, no matter what language you use, I’m someone who likes to be in control, and some may have called me bossy (and...

Building Trust in Your Relationship

  Today’s post is all about how to establish and build trust in your relationship. I’m going to teach you the three components that make up trust (and why you need all three), and then I’m going to give you my top tips for building trust based on the...

The Truth About Setting Relationship Goals

  Today You’ll finally be able to make relationship goals that stick for the long-term! If you’ve never tried to make them before, you’ll learn why you should and, if you’ve made them before but they didn’t work, you’ll learn why things went South....

Making Resolution Stick

  According to British researcher, Richard Wiseman, PhD, about 88% of resolutions are not achieved. If you think back on previous resolutions you’ve made, you’ll probably see that this number sounds just about right. The good news is that Dr. Wiseman...

Three tips for Indulging the Right Way this Holiday Season

The holiday season is well under way and, for many of you, you’re not feeling so “merry and bright.” It’s easy to over-indulge on the wrong things like those high-fat or sugary foods, booze, spending too much money or trying to cram a week’s worth of...

Get the Sizzle Back in Your Relationship

  A little while ago, I asked a bunch of men in my practice: “How do you romance a woman?” They answered very similarly with things like: “Tell her she’s beautiful or sexy; wine and dine her; buy her gifts; take her on a vacation; bring her flowers...

What to Look for In a Couples’ Counselor

  Finding the right couple’s counselor is a lot like dating to find the right partner. You’ve got to have that great fit: personalities that mesh, as well as cultural and intellectual compatibility. I always spend time on the phone with prospective...