BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: 5 KEY PHILOSOPHIES

This is round two in my “Best Relationship Advice” series. If you haven’t checked out my first post, which was focused on the best relationship advice that offered you quick wins, you can finish up here and then mosey on over to that one. Today, I’m going to teach you...

HOW TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE WHO GET ON YOUR LAST NERVE

Oh yes, for all my talk of love, compassion and kindness, I need to admit that sometimes people get on my last nerve! Of course, they do; I’m human just like you! It’s never about assuming that no one will bother you. It’s about how you handle it when people get under...

HOW TO APOLOGIZE FOR REAL (AND WHY IT’S SO HARD)!

No matter how much you try to do all the right things, you will mess up, you will be misunderstood, you will misunderstand, you will piss off your partner or you will hurt their feelings, whether you mean to or not. Sometimes this will be over big things: you think...

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR PARTNER IS HAVING A MIDLIFE CRISIS

In 1957, Dr. Elliott Jaques presented a paper to the British Psycho-Analytical Society. In it he talked about a pattern he’d identified wherein people in their mid-30s experienced a depressive period marked by a specific set of symptoms such as promiscuity, apathy,...

BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: FIVE QUICK WINS

My goal with this series, Best Relationship Advice, is to give you some tips that you can deploy and see positive results in a relatively short amount of time. Today I’m focusing on tips that will give you positive results the SAME DAY (or in a super short amount of...

MAKE YOUR LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP GREAT

According to recent studies, about three million Americans live apart from their spouse at some point during their marriage and 75% of college students have been in a long-distance relationship. Currently, it’s estimated that about 16 million people in the US are in...

SHAME: THE SILENT KILLER IN RELATIONSHIPS

That little voice inside your head tells you: “You look like crap in those jeans.” “You can’t really trust her.” “I knew you couldn’t do it.” “You’re all alone.” “If he really knew you, he wouldn’t love you.” Shame doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t matter if you’re fat...

IS SELF-COMPASSION THE SECRET TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP?

Last week I chatted with you about the juncture of self-esteem and self-confidence. Today I’m going to teach you: The three components of self-compassion Why it’s so important to your love life (and all your relationships) Why some think it’s even more important than...

EIGHT WAYS TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM

We all want to feel better about ourselves. We want to feel confident about our way in the world and let go of the negative self-talk, anxiety, and self-consciousness. Having higher self-esteem and confidence are linked to more robust physical and mental health, less...

ARE YOU FALLING INTO THE SNUGGIE TRAP?

If you’re as old as me, you’ll remember commercials “back in the day” for Snuggies. Snuggies are still around (I just Googled that to make sure) but if you haven’t seen one before, imagine a big hoodie and a blanket having a baby. Yes, a Snuggie is basically a...

EIGHT RULES FOR GIVING GREAT FEEDBACK

So, I’ve said this a lot of times now. Don’t SAC your relationship. Don’t make Suggestions, offer Advice or Criticize. The reaction I get most often to this is, “What? So I can never tell my partner, mother, coworker (insert person who is annoying you here) anything...

YOUR EXPECTATIONS ARE MAKING YOU UNHAPPY

Last week I told you that to be happy in your life and relationship, you needed to keep your standards high and your expectations low. We went over how to identify your standards and how to keep those boundaries.This week is all about those pesky expectations in your...