A little while ago, I asked a bunch of men in my practice: “How do you romance a woman?” They answered very similarly with things like: “Tell her she’s beautiful or sexy; wine and dine her; buy her gifts; take her on a vacation; bring her flowers for no...

  The key to having happy relationships is having the bandwidth to deal with them! If you’re feeling super busy or overwhelmed in your life and like your plate is already VERY full, the thought of adding couples’ therapy, time with your partner, or reading...

  Finding the right couple’s counselor is a lot like dating to find the right partner. You’ve got to have that great fit: personalities that mesh, as well as cultural and intellectual compatibility. I always spend time on the phone with prospective clients...

  I was at my dentist’s the other day and he asked me if I was taking time off for the holidays. It was a reasonable question, but I was laughing inside because, for psychologists, therapists and most healthcare professionals, this is our busiest time of the year....

  Money is a common cause of conflict and tension in relationships. Too often, couples have compatibility in most areas, but not around money. How we relate to money has a lot to do with what our thoughts and beliefs are about money. These beliefs develop...

  Imagine yourself walking in the woods and you come upon a snake (yikes)! Now, there are just three things that snake will do. It’ll attack you (fight), it’ll slither away (flee) or it’ll stay very still and hope the danger (you) passes without seeing it...

  Having regular business meetings is an important habit for couples. There are so many moving pieces in any family that it’s easy to seem like we’re nagging one another (“Honey, did you fix that leaky faucet yet?” “The lawn still needs to be mowed.” “Is...

  Your man calls you on his way home from work and mentions that he’s had a really hard day. You partner texts that she’s exhausted and you’ll need to bring home some take-out for dinner. Does this sound familiar? Often at the end of a long day at work,...

  Over 2000 years ago, Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius said, “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”  What he was saying, that’s...

  The big reason you get stuck in negativity with your partner is because you’re often trying to fix what’s wrong instead of starting building from what’s right. You don’t build great companies, products, life-changing ideas or great relationships by...

  Decisions, decisions, decisions. When you were a child, you made about 3000 decisions per day (Should I hit my brother? Should I cry to avoid putting on my shoes? I wonder if they’ll notice if I take that last French fry?). As you might expect, those...

  Anger is one of those things lots of people know about, but not everyone understands. There are so many misconceptions about what anger is and isn’t and today I’m going to let you in on a big secret about anger that’ll help you release your anger and...