How to be Heard in Any Relationship

 Does any of this sound familiar?“You’re not listening to me!” “You misunderstood what I said!”“We just discussed this last yesterday – how could you forget already?!”Or, have you ever been chatting with someone and kind of “woke up” in the middle of the...

The Secret to Changing (Relationship) Habits

 Creating a great relationship is all about creating great relationship habits: getting into the habit of thinking of the other person’s needs; getting into the habit of really listening and being present when your partner says something; or getting into...

What Anxiety Really Is and How to Deal with It

  I know this will sound familiar. You’re watching the Nature Channel and you see an antelope grazing somewhere on the savannah. He’s walking placidly along, dipping his head as he chews on the grass. Suddenly, he lifts his head and his ears prick...

How to Stop Stress from Hurting Your Relationship

 There’s a bunch of research out there showing that your relationship is worse off when you or your partner are under stress. A fight with your friend, money woes, that nasty commute, little Jimmy’s newly diagnosed gluten allergy, and those long work days,...

8 Habits of Happy and Successful Couples

 Want to have a connected, happy and fulfilled relationship? Here are the 8 habits you can start practicing today to be on your way:1. Be Interested: pay attention to your partner. This might seem like a “no-brainer” but it’s very common for couples to be...

The Dos and Don’ts if Your Partner Cheated

 What constitutes cheating?There’s no “one” action that defines cheating. For example, I’m fine with porn in my own relationship. I can watch it, he can watch it and we can watch it together. However, for some of you listening right now you’re thinking: I...

Can You Ever Trust Your Partner Again if They Cheated?

 One of the consistent reasons people walk in my door is because their partner cheated. The big question they always ask next is: How can I ever trust this person again? The good news is that the answer to this question isn’t as complicated as you...

Dealing with Triggers

 If you walk by a bakery and smell cinnamon, you might be triggered to walk in and get yourself a sweet snack. When you walk into your home after a long day at work and your partner asks you a question, you might be triggered to get defensive or resentful....

Finding the Spark Again (or for the First Time)

 Aphrodisiacs have been around probably as long as humans have been around. Take a look at Botticelli’s famous painting, Birth of Venus, and you can see why oysters have been linked to hot sex. When I was a teenager, people would talk about the turn-on...

No More Date Nights

 When I go to restaurants I like to check out the people around me to see who’s on a good first date (I can tell because there’s much hair tossing, attentiveness, laughter, active conversation and quick touches to the arm); and then I like to look for...

Fall in Love with Your Partner Again

 Being in a long-term relationship means you see a shared life with someone. The problem is that you and your partner likely have a different definition of what “sharing” means. So, I’ll see a couple and the husband thinks he’s doing plenty, but his wife...