YOUR PEOPLE PLEASING MIGHT BE A TRAUMA RESPONSE

YOUR PEOPLE PLEASING MIGHT BE A TRAUMA RESPONSE

12-minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast? Click here! I’m sure you’ve heard of the fight/flight/freeze response, but did you know that there’s also a fourth type of response called fawn which is like people pleasing on crack? Today I’m breaking down these four...

YOU MIGHT NOT REALIZE YOU’RE SUFFERING FROM UNHEALED TRAUMA

YOU MIGHT NOT REALIZE YOU’RE SUFFERING FROM UNHEALED TRAUMA

7-minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast? Click here! When you hear the word trauma you might be thinking, “Well, that doesn’t apply to me. I’ve never been the victim of a violent crime or in a war.” But defining any psychological trauma can be hard because it’s...

HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC POSITIVITY IN ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC POSITIVITY IN ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

7-minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast? Click here! Do you feel pressure from your partner to be happy or “get over it” when you’re struggling? Does your best friend dismiss or minimize your difficult feelings? When you’re hurt, does your mom say, “You should...

ONE-SIDED FRIENDSHIPS: THE 5-STEP PROCESS TO LOVING OR LEAVING THEM

ONE-SIDED FRIENDSHIPS: THE 5-STEP PROCESS TO LOVING OR LEAVING THEM

9-minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast? Click here! Do you have a friend who you’re always there for but, when you’re in need, they ghost you or offer minimal energy or support? Basically, are you in a friendship where it’s always all about them? Maybe you’ve...

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORTH SAVING?

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORTH SAVING?

10-minute read  Prefer to listen to the podcast? Click here! Is your relationship worth saving? Have you been wrestling over The Clash’s epic line, “Should I stay or should I go?” Yes, this indecision is bugging you! The waffling back and forth, the feeling of...

THE 5 WAYS IMPOSTER SYNDROME IS HURTING ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

THE 5 WAYS IMPOSTER SYNDROME IS HURTING ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

7-minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast on this topic? Click here! When you get a compliment do you say things like: “I just got lucky;” “We did so well on that project because Jane was running it;” “I’m not really a good mom – I’ve got a lot of help”? Then you...

HOW TO STOP RESCUING AND START SUPPORTING

HOW TO STOP RESCUING AND START SUPPORTING

6-minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast? Click here! I’ve got a quick quiz for you: Do you think you know what’s best for others and do stuff for them even when they didn’t ask? Do you put in more time and effort thinking about your partner’s issues than they...

HOW TO OWN YOUR SHIT AND STOP BLAMING OTHER PEOPLE

HOW TO OWN YOUR SHIT AND STOP BLAMING OTHER PEOPLE

5 minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast on this topic? Click here! Owning your shit is the key to a happy life because if you don’t own your shit, it’ll own you. If you’re blaming anyone else for anything in your life, it means you’re not taking responsibility...

3 STEPS TO LOVING DETACHMENT

3 STEPS TO LOVING DETACHMENT

8 minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast on this topic? Click here! If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love (or loving...

THE EASIEST AND MOST EFFECTIVE WAY TO SOLVE ANY PROBLEM

THE EASIEST AND MOST EFFECTIVE WAY TO SOLVE ANY PROBLEM

10 minute read Prefer to listen to the podcast? Click here! There you are in the problem. “I can’t pay these bills.” “My partner’s driving me crazy.” “I think my boss hates me.” “I need to lose weight.” “I’m lonely.” Because this is a big issue in your life, you think...

THE 5 SIGNS THAT YOU’RE NOT COMMUNICATING

THE 5 SIGNS THAT YOU’RE NOT COMMUNICATING

Talking to someone who’s not listening is like speaking to a drunk person. They can sort of hold a conversation with you, but they’re not really “present” or engaged and they’re not going to remember a thing you said tomorrow. Today I’m going to teach you the five...

CODEPENDENCY COUNTER-DEPENDENCY AND NARCISSISM, OH MY!

CODEPENDENCY COUNTER-DEPENDENCY AND NARCISSISM, OH MY!

“What the hell is counter-dependency?” That was literally my response when I was asked to cover this topic for the podcast. In my over 35 years in the field, I’d never heard the term but, once I started my deep dive into learning everything about it, I realized that I...

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