THE 5 SIGNS THAT YOU’RE NOT COMMUNICATING

THE 5 SIGNS THAT YOU’RE NOT COMMUNICATING

Talking to someone who’s not listening is like speaking to a drunk person. They can sort of hold a conversation with you, but they’re not really “present” or engaged and they’re not going to remember a thing you said tomorrow. Today I’m going to teach you the five...

CODEPENDENCY COUNTER-DEPENDENCY AND NARCISSISM, OH MY!

CODEPENDENCY COUNTER-DEPENDENCY AND NARCISSISM, OH MY!

“What the hell is counter-dependency?” That was literally my response when I was asked to cover this topic for the podcast. In my over 35 years in the field, I’d never heard the term but, once I started my deep dive into learning everything about it, I realized that I...

FOMO: THE REAL REASON YOU’VE GOT IT AND HOW TO MAKE IT STOP

FOMO: THE REAL REASON YOU’VE GOT IT AND HOW TO MAKE IT STOP

FOMO, or the fear of missing out, is basically your worry and anxiety that other people are doing something that either you should be doing or that’s better than what you are doing. In fact, the research shows that you can still feel like you’re missing out even if...

UNSUPPORTIVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY: THE 5 THINGS YOU WANT TO DO

UNSUPPORTIVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY: THE 5 THINGS YOU WANT TO DO

It seems like the definition of friends and family would be “people who have your back, no matter what.” Sadly, that’s not often how it feels when they say things like: “I don’t know why you married that man” “Don’t leave your job! You’ve got benefits and security!”...

NEGATIVE SELF-TALK AND YOUR INNER CRITIC NEED TO GO

NEGATIVE SELF-TALK AND YOUR INNER CRITIC NEED TO GO

Is your inner voice an asshole? Do you routinely say things to yourself like: “Why can’t you ever speak up for yourself?” “Why do you always mess up?” “Yeah, the boss said I did a great job on that project, but she was just being nice” “What’s wrong with me?” “I’m...

EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS: WHAT TO DO AND WHAT TO AVOID

EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS: WHAT TO DO AND WHAT TO AVOID

For some reason, the culture in the United States is one where we believe that touching someone outside our relationship is more dangerous than sharing our deepest secrets and feelings with someone outside our relationship. But an emotional affair can be even more...

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR PARTNER THREATENS A BREAKUP OR DIVORCE

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR PARTNER THREATENS A BREAKUP OR DIVORCE

Are you stressing because your partner has thrown around words like divorce, break up, trial separation, maybe we should see other people, I’m just not happy or I need to take a break? Well, the cavalry is here! I’ve got you! What can or should you be doing if your...

SELF-SABOTAGE: WHAT IT IS, WHY YOU DO IT, AND HOW TO STOP IT

SELF-SABOTAGE: WHAT IT IS, WHY YOU DO IT, AND HOW TO STOP IT

Self-sabotage can show up in any relationship: with our partner, boss, friend or, the one that hurts the most, in our relationship with ourselves! When you self-sabotage you’re holding yourself back from the person you want to be. Today I’m going to teach you why you...

REGRET SUCKS: THE 3-STEP PROCESS TO MAKE IT STOP

REGRET SUCKS: THE 3-STEP PROCESS TO MAKE IT STOP

Superman did it, but you can’t. The past is unchangeable. Period. End of story. The could’ve and should’ve clearly doesn’t help, but we do it anyway. We regret. What’s up with this destructive pattern and how do we change it? Today, I’m going to walk you through my...

HOW TO STOP CARING SO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

HOW TO STOP CARING SO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

Since the dawn of time, humans have depended on their relationships to survive. If you were thrown out of your clan or tribe, your chances of survival were nil. Being accepted is a biological imperative so your brain is trained to care deeply about what others think...

COPING WITH GRIEF AND LOSS: FROM BREAK UPS TO DEATH TO LOSING A JOB

COPING WITH GRIEF AND LOSS: FROM BREAK UPS TO DEATH TO LOSING A JOB

Grief and loss aren’t just about someone dying. Sometimes you’ll experience these feelings due to something out of your control like being fired or someone breaking up with you. And you can feel grief and loss even when you were the one in control! You might have...

CREATE A VISION FOR YOUR LIFE

CREATE A VISION FOR YOUR LIFE

Create Your Vision Looking to create a vision for your life? Every effective organization has a vision statement because it’s the True North of any company; it defines their purpose and what they’re striving to achieve. When I work with executives who are faced with a...

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