The Dos and Don’ts if Your Partner Cheated

 What constitutes cheating?There’s no “one” action that defines cheating. For example, I’m fine with porn in my own relationship. I can watch it, he can watch it and we can watch it together. However, for some of you listening right now you’re thinking: I...

Can You Ever Trust Your Partner Again if They Cheated?

 One of the consistent reasons people walk in my door is because their partner cheated. The big question they always ask next is: How can I ever trust this person again? The good news is that the answer to this question isn’t as complicated as you...

Dealing with Triggers

 If you walk by a bakery and smell cinnamon, you might be triggered to walk in and get yourself a sweet snack. When you walk into your home after a long day at work and your partner asks you a question, you might be triggered to get defensive or resentful....

Finding the Spark Again (or for the First Time)

 Aphrodisiacs have been around probably as long as humans have been around. Take a look at Botticelli’s famous painting, Birth of Venus, and you can see why oysters have been linked to hot sex. When I was a teenager, people would talk about the turn-on...

No More Date Nights

 When I go to restaurants I like to check out the people around me to see who’s on a good first date (I can tell because there’s much hair tossing, attentiveness, laughter, active conversation and quick touches to the arm); and then I like to look for...

Fall in Love with Your Partner Again

  Being in a long-term relationship means you see a shared life with someone. The problem is that you and your partner likely have a different definition of what “sharing” means. So, I’ll see a couple and the husband thinks he’s doing plenty, but his...

Boundaries: How to Identify Them and How to Hold Them

  Having healthy emotional boundaries means you know what your limits are. It means you know what you need to feel safe and confident in your world. It means you know your standards. It also means that you take full responsibility for your own...

What to Do if Your Partner is Controlling

  Let’s Talk Control There’s a big difference between being controlling and being in control. Being in control is awesome. It means you’re self-aware, confident and that your self-esteem is strong. Being controlling is unhealthy. It’s actually a sign...

How to Deal with Your Control Issues

  Hello. My name is Abby and I’m a control freak. Actually, I like to call myself a “control enthusiast” because that sounds better but, no matter what language you use, I’m someone who likes to be in control, and some may have called me bossy (and...

Building Trust in Your Relationship

  Today’s post is all about how to establish and build trust in your relationship. I’m going to teach you the three components that make up trust (and why you need all three), and then I’m going to give you my top tips for building trust based on the...

The Truth About Setting Relationship Goals

  Today You’ll finally be able to make relationship goals that stick for the long-term! If you’ve never tried to make them before, you’ll learn why you should and, if you’ve made them before but they didn’t work, you’ll learn why things went South....

Making Resolution Stick

  According to British researcher, Richard Wiseman, PhD, about 88% of resolutions are not achieved. If you think back on previous resolutions you’ve made, you’ll probably see that this number sounds just about right. The good news is that Dr. Wiseman...