ASK DR. ABBY: MY PARTNER DOESN’T LISTEN TO ME

Have you ever had someone complain to you about something and then, when you give them great solutions, they shoot you down? Whether it’s your partner, kid, mother-in-law or coworker, why won’t people listen to your fabulous ideas? Today I’m going to tell you why that...

WHY SLEEP IS THE SECRET TO GREAT RELATIONSHIPS

Your day doesn’t start when you turn off your alarm in the morning. Your day starts when you set the alarm the night before. Getting your butt to bed at a reasonable hour and then getting shut eye is key to having a good day. With good sleep you’ll feel closer to your...

THE 3 BEST TOOLS TO USE IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP

I have long believed that the tools I teach apply to any and all relationships. However, most of us were taught to act differently everywhere. How you act with your boss at work isn’t how you’re supposed to act with your best friend. The idea has always been that...

HOW TO DEAL WITH PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE PEOPLE

“Just checking to see if you got my last email” “Wow. I’m so impressed that you don’t seem to care that you’re carrying extra weight and will just walk around in those shorts.” “I’ll just do it myself.” “I didn’t hear you, that’s why I didn’t put away the dishes.”...

HOW TO IDENTIFY YOUR RELATIONSHIP BLIND SPOTS

If you look up “blind spot” in the dictionary it says, “An area in which your view is obstructed.” The problem with blind spots in our relationships is that they stop us from exhibiting a healthy perspective. Our judgment and awareness become skewed so we don’t make...

MY PARTNER WON’T LISTEN TO ME!

Does it seem like your partner isn’t listening to you? Do you feel like you say the same thing over and over to them and nothing registers?There’s one main reason why your partner isn’t listening. I’m going to explain what it is, how to recognize the signs and then...

MY PARTNER IS DRIVING ME CRAZY IN QUARANTINE!

If you’re a human being and living with your partner, there’s a high likelihood that you’ve come close to killing them a few times since March. In fact, the things that used to only slightly annoy you might now feel at such epic proportions that divorce (or the...

HOW EMOTIONAL LABOR IS KILLING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

You’re a woman and you’ve made dinner and now you’re in the kitchen doing the dishes. Your partner has dutifully cleared the table and is now standing in the kitchen chatting with you. While it’s very nice that they’re bonding with you, you’re biting your tongue...

HOW TO SAY “NO” AND STICK TO IT

Are you feeling resentful or exhausted? Is there a fair amount of passive aggressive behavior between you and your partner (or between you and anyone else)? Then you might not be saying “no” enough. Today I’m going to teach you: Why it’s so hard to say no Why women...

HOW TO STAY SANE WHEN THE WORLD IS GOING CRAZY

Shelter in place, self-quarantine, a hostage situation (if you have kids): whatever you call it – I’m assuming by now all this being at home has started to really suck. Yes, in the beginning my kids felt like it was a dream come true. No school?!?! It’s vacation! I...

BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: 5 KEY PHILOSOPHIES

This is round two in my “Best Relationship Advice” series. If you haven’t checked out my first post, which was focused on the best relationship advice that offered you quick wins, you can finish up here and then mosey on over to that one. Today, I’m going to teach you...