Last week I chatted with you about the juncture of self-esteem and self-confidence. Today I’m going to teach you: The three components of self-compassion Why it’s so important to your love life (and all your relationships) Why some think it’s even more important than...

We all want to feel better about ourselves. We want to feel confident about our way in the world and let go of the negative self-talk, anxiety, and self-consciousness. Having higher self-esteem and confidence are linked to more robust physical and mental health, less...

If you’re as old as me, you’ll remember commercials “back in the day” for Snuggies. Snuggies are still around (I just Googled that to make sure) but if you haven’t seen one before, imagine a big hoodie and a blanket having a baby. Yes, a Snuggie is basically a...

So, I’ve said this a lot of times now. Don’t SAC your relationship. Don’t make Suggestions, offer Advice or Criticize. The reaction I get most often to this is, “What? So I can never tell my partner, mother, coworker (insert person who is annoying you here) anything...

Last week I told you that to be happy in your life and relationship, you needed to keep your standards high and your expectations low. We went over how to identify your standards and how to keep those boundaries.This week is all about those pesky expectations in your...

Today I’m going to talk about why you need to have high standards and low expectations. The big problem is that most people have it reversed. They have low standards but high expectations. In other words, most people will accept all kinds of bad behavior from other...

If I had to write down the number one complaint I hear from my clients it would be: “But I just can’t stop thinking about it.” Clients come in all the time saying that they just can’t stop playing a certain scenario over and over again in their mind or they just can’t...

There’s no time of year like the beginning of January to prompt a re-assessment of our habits and impassioned resolutions to “better ourselves” – and it’s a new decade, no less. While the majority of us are out signing up for that shiny new gym membership, many of us...

Today I’m going to teach you the tools to not only survive the holiday season with your family but to thrive through that season. When we’re back with our families we often get caught up in old emotional patterns (this is why I used to always turn into my teenage self...

Last week we discussed appreciation and how it’s different than gratitude. I talked about how appreciation is all about being in the here and now and, by noticing it, you turn it from a neutral event into a positive one, thereby seeing it with new eyes. Today we’re...

I’ve been noticing for a while now that people use the terms gratitude and appreciation interchangeably and they’re not interchangeable. They have two separate meanings and two distinct ways they show up in a fulfilled, happy, balanced life. Today I’m going to break...

Have you ever been chatting with someone and kind of “woke up” in the middle of the conversation? Or maybe you had a dialogue at work and then couldn’t remember anything about it just a half hour later? You might be thinking: “Listening is automatic, right?” Nope....