MY PARTNER IS DRIVING ME CRAZY IN QUARANTINE!

MY PARTNER IS DRIVING ME CRAZY IN QUARANTINE!

If you’re a human being and living with your partner, there’s a high likelihood that you’ve come close to killing them a few times since March. In fact, the things that used to only slightly annoy you might now feel at such epic proportions that divorce (or the...

HOW EMOTIONAL LABOR IS KILLING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

HOW EMOTIONAL LABOR IS KILLING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

You’re a woman and you’ve made dinner and now you’re in the kitchen doing the dishes. Your partner has dutifully cleared the table and is now standing in the kitchen chatting with you. While it’s very nice that they’re bonding with you, you’re biting your tongue...

HOW TO SAY “NO” AND STICK TO IT

HOW TO SAY “NO” AND STICK TO IT

Are you feeling resentful or exhausted? Is there a fair amount of passive aggressive behavior between you and your partner (or between you and anyone else)? Then you might not be saying “no” enough. Today I’m going to teach you: Why it’s so hard to say no Why women...

HOW TO STAY SANE WHEN THE WORLD IS GOING CRAZY

HOW TO STAY SANE WHEN THE WORLD IS GOING CRAZY

Shelter in place, self-quarantine, a hostage situation (if you have kids): whatever you call it – I’m assuming by now all this being at home has started to really suck. Yes, in the beginning my kids felt like it was a dream come true. No school?!?! It’s vacation! I...

BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: 5 KEY PHILOSOPHIES

BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: 5 KEY PHILOSOPHIES

This is round two in my “Best Relationship Advice” series. If you haven’t checked out my first post, which was focused on the best relationship advice that offered you quick wins, you can finish up here and then mosey on over to that one. Today, I’m going to teach you...

HOW TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE WHO GET ON YOUR LAST NERVE

HOW TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE WHO GET ON YOUR LAST NERVE

Oh yes, for all my talk of love, compassion and kindness, I need to admit that sometimes people get on my last nerve! Of course, they do; I’m human just like you! It’s never about assuming that no one will bother you. It’s about how you handle it when people get under...

HOW TO APOLOGIZE FOR REAL (AND WHY IT’S SO HARD)!

HOW TO APOLOGIZE FOR REAL (AND WHY IT’S SO HARD)!

No matter how much you try to do all the right things, you will mess up, you will be misunderstood, you will misunderstand, you will piss off your partner or you will hurt their feelings, whether you mean to or not. Sometimes this will be over big things: you think...

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR PARTNER IS HAVING A MIDLIFE CRISIS

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR PARTNER IS HAVING A MIDLIFE CRISIS

In 1957, Dr. Elliott Jaques presented a paper to the British Psycho-Analytical Society. In it he talked about a pattern he’d identified wherein people in their mid-30s experienced a depressive period marked by a specific set of symptoms such as promiscuity, apathy,...

BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: FIVE QUICK WINS

BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: FIVE QUICK WINS

My goal with this series, Best Relationship Advice, is to give you some tips that you can deploy and see positive results in a relatively short amount of time. Today I’m focusing on tips that will give you positive results the SAME DAY (or in a super short amount of...

MAKE YOUR LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP GREAT

MAKE YOUR LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP GREAT

According to recent studies, about three million Americans live apart from their spouse at some point during their marriage and 75% of college students have been in a long-distance relationship. Currently, it’s estimated that about 16 million people in the US are in...

SHAME: THE SILENT KILLER IN RELATIONSHIPS

SHAME: THE SILENT KILLER IN RELATIONSHIPS

That little voice inside your head tells you: “You look like crap in those jeans.” “You can’t really trust her.” “I knew you couldn’t do it.” “You’re all alone.” “If he really knew you, he wouldn’t love you.” Shame doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t matter if you’re fat...

IS SELF-COMPASSION THE SECRET TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP?

IS SELF-COMPASSION THE SECRET TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP?

Last week I chatted with you about the juncture of self-esteem and self-confidence. Today I’m going to teach you: The three components of self-compassion Why it’s so important to your love life (and all your relationships) Why some think it’s even more important than...