Your Happiness Depends on One Thing: Your Attention

  Think of all the things that happen within your day; All the interactions with family, friends, your boss, and workers at coffee shops and grocery stores. Why do some things bug you but others don’t? Better yet, why is it that on certaindays something will bother...

Answering Bids in Your Relationship

  Answering bids is one of the most important things you can do to create a connected, happy and fulfilling relationship. Answering bids means that any time your partner makes an attempt at connection you need to move towards them in some way and bond. Marriage...

How to Make Mindfulness a Habit

  Mindfulness is a super power. It helps us stay in the moment so we can avoid conflicts and misunderstandings, create more happiness and contentment in our lives and create more intimate and connected relationships. What exactly is mindfulness? It simply means that...

Willpower and Apps

  One of the biggest mistakes you can make is thinking you’ve got 24 hours in a day in a day to get things done. Yup, I know this way of thinking has been around since the 14th century, but it doesn’t apply to 21st century life. Instead, I want you to think of your...

Keeping Score in Your Relationship Makes You Lose

  There’s a lot going on in today’s marriages: commutes, work, deadlines, keeping the house together, fitting in time with friends, self-care, and just the general maintenance of life leaves many couples feeling exhausted at the end of the day. When you throw kids,...

Three Lies Keeping You Stuck in Relationship Gridlock

  I think the problem people come to me the most about is feeling stuck in their relationship. They feel like, no matter what they do, nothing changes long-term and they end up feeling frustrated, hopeless, pissed off or depressed. I’m going to teach you...

Top 8 Tips for Great Mornings (Even Though You Have Kids)

  Are mornings the bane of your existence? Is there nothing but fighting, yelling, rushing and crying (not to mention how the kids act)? Here are the top 8 tips for creating connection and love in your mornings.\ Tip #1: Set Your Intention Generally, there’s a “tone”...

Bad Questions are Ruining Your Relationship

  Tell me if this scene is familiar to you. You walk in the house and your partner is cooking dinner, watching TV or at their computer. You say, “Hey, I’m home.” They don’t stop what they’re doing or even look up, but yell out, “How was your day?” You yell back “good”...

Here’s Why You’re Upset in Your Relationships

Over 2000 years ago, Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius said, “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” What he was saying, that’s still true...

Change Your Language, Change Your Relationship: My Top 5 Tips

  We've become a society BIG on words: we talk, tweet, post, text and email. Literally, thousands of words fly out of our mouths and fingertips daily. Recent studies from the University of Arizona found that we speak about 16,000 words per day (there's no statistical...

Communication Styles in Love Relationships

  Most couples come to my office saying they want to work on “communication.” I’ve got to tell you, that’s a verybroad topic. There are so many facets of effective communication so please understand that there’s no cookie cutter for this. That’s why I’m all about...

A Word to the Ladies: You Can’t Have a Pussy and Drive a Minivan

  We had a minivan, but I refused to drive it.  You know why?  Because the second you put yourself behind that wheel, you no longer have a pussy, you have a vagina.  I don’t want to have a vagina yet (if ever).  Now, this is just me, you might be one hot piece of ass...