How to Stop Stress from Hurting Your Relationship

 There’s a bunch of research out there showing that your relationship is worse off when you or your partner are under stress. A fight with your friend, money woes, that nasty commute, little Jimmy’s newly diagnosed gluten allergy, and those long work days,...

8 Habits of Happy and Successful Couples

 Want to have a connected, happy and fulfilled relationship? Here are the 8 habits you can start practicing today to be on your way:1. Be Interested: pay attention to your partner. This might seem like a “no-brainer” but it’s very common for couples to be...

The Dos and Don’ts if Your Partner Cheated

 What constitutes cheating?There’s no “one” action that defines cheating. For example, I’m fine with porn in my own relationship. I can watch it, he can watch it and we can watch it together. However, for some of you listening right now you’re thinking: I...

Can You Ever Trust Your Partner Again if They Cheated?

 One of the consistent reasons people walk in my door is because their partner cheated. The big question they always ask next is: How can I ever trust this person again? The good news is that the answer to this question isn’t as complicated as you...

Dealing with Triggers

 If you walk by a bakery and smell cinnamon, you might be triggered to walk in and get yourself a sweet snack. When you walk into your home after a long day at work and your partner asks you a question, you might be triggered to get defensive or resentful....

Finding the Spark Again (or for the First Time)

 Aphrodisiacs have been around probably as long as humans have been around. Take a look at Botticelli’s famous painting, Birth of Venus, and you can see why oysters have been linked to hot sex. When I was a teenager, people would talk about the turn-on...

No More Date Nights

 When I go to restaurants I like to check out the people around me to see who’s on a good first date (I can tell because there’s much hair tossing, attentiveness, laughter, active conversation and quick touches to the arm); and then I like to look for...

Fall in Love with Your Partner Again

 Being in a long-term relationship means you see a shared life with someone. The problem is that you and your partner likely have a different definition of what “sharing” means. So, I’ll see a couple and the husband thinks he’s doing plenty, but his wife...

Boundaries: How to Identify Them and How to Hold Them

 Having healthy emotional boundaries means you know what your limits are. It means you know what you need to feel safe and confident in your world. It means you know your standards. It also means that you take full responsibility for your own thoughts,...

What to Do if Your Partner is Controlling

  Let’s Talk Control There’s a big difference between being controlling and being in control. Being in control is awesome. It means you’re self-aware, confident and that your self-esteem is strong. Being controlling is unhealthy. It’s actually a sign...

How to Deal with Your Control Issues

 Hello. My name is Abby and I’m a control freak. Actually, I like to call myself a “control enthusiast” because that sounds better but, no matter what language you use, I’m someone who likes to be in control, and some may have called me bossy (and even...

Building Trust in Your Relationship

 Today’s post is all about how to establish and build trust in your relationship. I’m going to teach you the three components that make up trust (and why you need all three), and then I’m going to give you my top tips for building trust based on the Trust...