My friend and colleague, Tess Brigham, always says, “If you don’t want to live on a farm in Idaho, don’t marry an Idaho farmer.” I totally agree! People are who they are, right at the beginning of any relationship. I don’t necessarily mean those first few...

 Decision-making in relationships can be tough. Often, the individuals in a partnership end up coming out of any deliberation thinking they’ve given up more than their partner. There’s a feeling of someone winning and someone losing instead of a shared...

 In the 1940s, John Bowlby, a developmental psychologist and psychiatrist was interested in what happened when children and caregivers were separated for brief or longer amounts of time. He believed that how we attached to these caregivers affected our...

 To understand how to make your partner feel like a priority, you first have to think about how you know you’re a priority to your own partner. When I gave a quick survey to my tribe, here are some of the answers I received:My partner taking my needs into...

 Does any of this sound familiar?“You’re not listening to me!” “You misunderstood what I said!”“We just discussed this last yesterday – how could you forget already?!”Or, have you ever been chatting with someone and kind of “woke up” in the middle of the...

 Creating a great relationship is all about creating great relationship habits: getting into the habit of thinking of the other person’s needs; getting into the habit of really listening and being present when your partner says something; or getting into...

 So excited to have Tess Brigham guest blog this week. Tess Brigham is a licensed psychotherapist and board certified coach who helps 20-somethings find clarity so they can confidently discover their path and make an impact on the world. She has been a...

  I know this will sound familiar. You’re watching the Nature Channel and you see an antelope grazing somewhere on the savannah. He’s walking placidly along, dipping his head as he chews on the grass. Suddenly, he lifts his head and his ears prick...

 There’s a bunch of research out there showing that your relationship is worse off when you or your partner are under stress. A fight with your friend, money woes, that nasty commute, little Jimmy’s newly diagnosed gluten allergy, and those long work days,...

 Want to have a connected, happy and fulfilled relationship? Here are the 8 habits you can start practicing today to be on your way:1. Be Interested: pay attention to your partner. This might seem like a “no-brainer” but it’s very common for couples to be...

 What constitutes cheating?There’s no “one” action that defines cheating. For example, I’m fine with porn in my own relationship. I can watch it, he can watch it and we can watch it together. However, for some of you listening right now you’re thinking: I...

 One of the consistent reasons people walk in my door is because their partner cheated. The big question they always ask next is: How can I ever trust this person again? The good news is that the answer to this question isn’t as complicated as you...