YOU’VE GOT TO HAVE HIGH STANDARDS AND LOW EXPECTATIONS

Today I’m going to talk about why you need to have high standards and low expectations. The big problem is that most people have it reversed. They have low standards but high expectations. In other words, most people will accept all kinds of bad behavior from other...

HOW TO GET OUT OF NEGATIVE THINKING

If I had to write down the number one complaint I hear from my clients it would be: “But I just can’t stop thinking about it.” Clients come in all the time saying that they just can’t stop playing a certain scenario over and over again in their mind or they just can’t...

GETTING OUT OF THE ROOMMATE RUT

There’s no time of year like the beginning of January to prompt a re-assessment of our habits and impassioned resolutions to “better ourselves” – and it’s a new decade, no less. While the majority of us are out signing up for that shiny new gym membership, many of us...

GRATITUDE IS A GATEWAY DRUG

Last week we discussed appreciation and how it’s different than gratitude. I talked about how appreciation is all about being in the here and now and, by noticing it, you turn it from a neutral event into a positive one, thereby seeing it with new eyes. Today we’re...

WHY APPRECIATION IS DIFFERENT THAN GRATITUDE

I’ve been noticing for a while now that people use the terms gratitude and appreciation interchangeably and they’re not interchangeable. They have two separate meanings and two distinct ways they show up in a fulfilled, happy, balanced life. Today I’m going to break...

IF YOU WANT TO COMMUNICATE, YOU’VE GOT TO LISTEN FIRST

Have you ever been chatting with someone and kind of “woke up” in the middle of the conversation? Or maybe you had a dialogue at work and then couldn’t remember anything about it just a half hour later? You might be thinking: “Listening is automatic, right?” Nope....

GREAT COMMUNICATION IS ALL ABOUT TIMING

  You can’t be a Relationship Maven and not talk a lot about Communication Tools. I’ve covered a wide variety of topics on communication over the years and today I want to bring you something new that I haven’t discussed before. Today I’m going to talk about...

TWO STRATEGIES YOU NEED TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY

  It’s Communication month! Last week we focused on your unconscious communication and how that affects you (and I gave you a one-week challenge – if you haven’t checked out the Align Your Mind Challenge yet, what are you waiting for)?! Now it’s time to look at...

It’s Time to Up Your Communication Game

 If we’re going to talk about communication, I want to make sure we’re on the same page first. At its very core, communication refers to receiving information. If you’re the sender of this information (i.e., the one talking) you want whatever you’re saying...

How to Stop Being Distracted

 True story of me leaving my house for work:I grab my keys, phone, bag and thermos. I lock all the locks and walk outside to get to my car. As my feet hit the concrete, I’m aware that something is off; that something doesn’t seem right. I walk another few...

Four Ways to Be More Self-Aware

 People who are self-aware are more fulfilled, have stronger relationships, are more creative, more confident and better communicators. They’re less likely to lie, cheat or steal and they do better at work and are more promotable (all according to the...