Last week we discussed appreciation and how it’s different than gratitude.

Today You’ll Learn:

  • ALL things gratitude including:
    • Its history
    • The 4 reasons why it’s good
    • My top tips for being a gratitude ninja

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What is Gratitude?

Eminent gratitude expert, Dr. Robert Emmons, from the University of California at Davis, says that it has two key components:

  1. It’s an affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good things in the world, gifts and benefits we’ve received.
  2. We then recognize that the sources of this goodness are outside of ourselves… We acknowledge that other people (or even a higher power) gave us many gifts, big and small, to help us achieve the goodness in our lives.

Four reasons why gratitude is good:

  1. Gratitude allows us to celebrate the present, and so it magnifies positive emotions.
  2. Gratitude blocks toxic, negative emotions (like resentment, helplessness, and regret which can destroy our happiness).
  3. Grateful people are more stress resistant.
  4. Grateful people have a higher sense of self-worth.


If you’ve been following me for any period of time, you know I say that a happy and fulfilling life is all about getting better at certain skills. Effective listening, confidence and happiness are all skills. When you get better at these skills, you become a better communicator.

This is true for gratitude. Gratitude is a skill and, better yet, it’s a gateway skill. When you get good at it, you also get better at skills such as compassion and forgiveness.

Here are some top tips and general ideas for practicing gratitude:

  1. Keep a gratitude journal.
  2. Count your blessings every am and pm.
  3. Have concrete reminders to practice gratitude like a gratitude jar for change that you can then donate.
  4. Gratitude for what you give versus receive.
  5. Remember the bad: remember the hard times you once experienced. Remember how difficult life used to be and how far you’ve come.
  6. Learn prayers of gratitude.
  7. Use visual reminders: the two primary obstacles to gratefulness are forgetfulness and a lack of mindful awareness, visual reminders can serve as cues to trigger gratitude.
  8. Watch your language: grateful people have a particular linguistic style that uses the language of gifts, givers, blessings, blessed, fortune, fortunate, and abundance.

Resources and Links:

If you’re going to read one book on gratitude, make it Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier by Robert Emmons.

Why Appreciation is Different Than Gratitude


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