HOW CHILDHOOD ABUSE AND CHILDHOOD TRAUMA AFFECTS ADULT RELATIONSHIPS

childhood trauma affects relationships

Everything from your sex life, to troubles with your boss at work, to your ability to trust and be open with your partner can be affected by abuse or trauma from your childhood. The good news is that the challenges you face today don’t have to be permanent! Today I’m breaking down what childhood abuse includes (you’d be amazed how many people I’ve worked with don’t even realize that what happened to them as a kid is actually some type of abuse or trauma), how childhood trauma affects adult relationships, and as always, some resources to get the help you need.

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Resources

How Attached Are You in Your Relationship?

What Anxiety Really Is and How to Deal with It

Your People Pleasing Might Be a Trauma Response

International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies Find a Clinician Tool

How to Get Out of Negative Thinking

SKY Breath Meditation, Art of Living Foundation

Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Research

Carly D. Larsen et al., “The Effects of Childhood Abuse on Relationship Quality: Gender Differences and Clinical Implications,” Interdisciplinary Journal of Applied Family Science 60, no. 4 (October 2011): 435-445.

“Understanding Child Trauma,” SAMHSA

Grant Sara and Julia Lappin, “Childhood Trauma: Psychiatry’s Greatest Public Health Challenge?,” Lancet 2, no. 7 (2017).

Stephen W. Porges, “The polyvagal theory: New insights into adaptive reactions of the autonomic nervous system,” Cleve Clin J. Med 76, sup. 2 (2009): S86-S90.

J. Tina Savla et al, “Childhood abuse affects emotional closeness with family in mid- and later life,” Child Abuse and Neglect 37, no. 6 (2013): 388-399.

Runsen Chen et al., “The Efficacy of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing in Children and Adults Who Have Experienced Complex Childhood Trauma: A Systematic Review of Randomized Controlled Trials,” Front Psychol 9 (2018): 534.

Emma Seppälä, Christina Bradley, and Michael R. Goldstein, “Why Breathing is So Effective at Reducing Stress,” Harvard Business Review, September 29, 2020.

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