How to Heal Yourself Emotionally: Mastering Self-Regulation for a Happier Life (Podcast Episode 316)

You’ve talked about your past and likely know a lot of the reasons why you’ve got issues (I say with love). The problem is that even though you might know the why (or think you do), you don’t feel better. You continue to repeat unhealthy relationship cycles and you’re still not maintaining your boundaries with others. Or maybe you’re overeating or smoking too much pot. You know why you’ve got some dysfunctional habits, but that hasn’t resulted in you healing emotionally. Talking about your childhood or a bad relationship, initially is great, but spending all your time on the why and not on the how is keeping you stuck. Healing yourself emotionally is comprised of three main areas: 1) learning self-regulation, 2) mindfulness, and 3) self-acceptance/self-compassion. Today we’ll be focusing on that first step, self-regulation. Next week, we’ll tackle mindfulness and self-acceptance/compassion.

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Resources and Research for How to Heal Yourself Emotionally: Mastering Self-Regulation for a Happier Life

The Secret to Managing Your Emotions: A Step-by-Step Guide

Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy by Dr. Abby Medcalf

How to Effectively Deal with Triggers in Your Relationships

Mindfulness Starter Kit

How to Stop Overthinking and Let Things Go That Bother You

Abby’s Grounding Exercise

Meditation Starter Kit

How to Set Intentions in Just 18 Seconds (aka The 18-Second Shift)

Seven Effective Tools to Deal with Stress in Your Relationship

The Secrets to Effectively Dealing with Stress and Anxiety Part One

The Secrets to Effectively Dealing with Stress and Anxiety Part Two

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Handbook of Life Course Health Development

Friese, M., Messner, C., & Schaffner, Y. (2012). Mindfulness meditation counteracts self-control depletion. Consciousness and Cognition, 21(2), 1016-1022. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.concog.2012.01.008

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