Judgment Detox: 8 Steps to Be Less Critical and More Connected (Podcast Episode 340)

We all have that inner critic, the voice that whispers judgments about others and ourselves. It’s quick to label, to assume, to decide who’s right and who’s wrong. While judgment can be a natural human response, being judgmental can erode your relationships and seriously hinder your personal growth. Yes, judgment feels good at first. It gives you a hit of certainty, a sense of superiority, and the illusion of control. But over time, it poisons your perspective and isolates you from the very connection you crave. Today we’ll talk about why you judge, the problems it causes, and my 8 steps to help you become less judgmental.

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Tier I: Inner Circle

• Question Checklist for Discernment vs Judgment: Asking yourself these questions will help you figure out if you’re being judging or discerning.
• Journaling Prompts Unpacking Your Judgment Triggers
• Spot the Judgment Worksheet

Tier II: Love Accelerator

• Conversation Starters for Speaking to Others About Judgment: If there’s judgment in any relationship, the best way to extinguish it is to discuss it without blame or shame. These questions are meant to prompt open conversations about judgment so you can move into a new understanding.
• Guided Visualization for Releasing Your Inner Critic

Tier III: VIP Love Lab

• Letter Template: Write to Your Inner Critic
• Mindset Reframe Chart: From Judgment to Curiosity
• Judgment Journal 7-Day Log Tracking Tool

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The Evolution of Accuracy and Bias in Social Judgment by Martie G. Haselton, David C. Funder

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