HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING (Podcast Episode 212)

I’ve got a quick quiz for you. Do you put other people’s needs ahead of your own? Do you feel guilty when you say “no”? Are you not saying what you really need and feel because you don’t want to upset someone else? Do you often feel resentful, frustrated, unappreciated, or emotionally drained in your relationships? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, today’s show is for you. Today you’ll learn the difference between people pleasing and just being nice or supportive, why you people please, and my top tips to stop people pleasing once and for all! So stay tuned!

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Resources for How to Stop People Pleasing

Your People Pleasing Might Be a Trauma Response

You Might Not Realize You’re Suffering From Unhealed Trauma

Episode 30: Boundaries: How to Make Them and How to Hold Them

Episode 164: How to Overcome Guilt and Regret When Setting Boundaries

Eight Ways to Build Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

Psycho-Cybernetics: Updated and Expanded by Maxwell Maltz

3 Steps to Loving Detachment

Meditation Starter Kit

Mindfulness Starter Kit

Setting Boundaries: How to Say No and Stop Being a People Pleaser Without Feeling Guilty

How to Overcome Guilt When Setting Boundaries

4 Ways to Build Your Self-Esteem and Confidence

Research

Kaufman Scott Barry, Jauk Emanuel. “Healthy Selfishness and Pathological Altruism: Measuring Two Paradoxical Forms of Selfishness,” Frontiers in Psychology, v. 11, 2020

Ever-So-Slight Delay Improves Decision-Making Accuracy, Columbia University Irvine Medical Center, March 7, 2014

Patrick, Vanessa M., and Henrik Hagtvedt. “‘I Don’t’ versus ‘I Can’t’: When Empowered Refusal Motivates Goal-Directed Behavior.” Journal of Consumer Research 39, no. 2 (2012): 371–81. https://doi.org/10.1086/663212.

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