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When They Keep Bringing up the Past and Won’t Let it Go (Podcast Episode 232)

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We’ve all been there. You’ve been working on yourself and acting in a more healthy way with your partner, parent, or friend. But then you slip up, even a little, and suddenly they’re reminding you of that thing you did five years ago that hurt them. WTF?! Are they always going to throw your past behavior in your face no matter how many changes you’ve made? Are you feeling frustrated because you’re trying so hard in the present to be healthy, but they just won’t let the past go? I’m here to help! Today you’re going to learn why people have a hard time letting go and my top five tips to stop living in past hurts and start building healthy relationships now.

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Research for When They Keep Bringing up the Past and Won’t Let it Go

Law, B. M. (2005, November 1). Probing the depression-rumination cycle. Monitor on Psychology, 36(10). https://www.apa.org/monitor/nov05/cycle

Julie Lillebostad Svendsen, Katrine Valvatne Kvernenes, Agnethe Smith Wiker & Ingrid Dundas (2016): Mechanisms of mindfulness: Rumination and self-compassion, Nordic Psychology, DOI: 10.1080/19012276.2016.1171730

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